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Husband smoking crack

 I'm so embarrassed and honestly I don't even know where to begin. 

Almost 3 years ago I discovered my husband had become addicted to crack. He would come home late, never have money, called out of work, etc. Then he came home with a strange smell. I drug tested him and he confessed.

Fast forward to now: Aug 2014 he stole his mom's car and rent money so she called the cops. We have been living with his mother since he can't stop and can't keep a job He was released from jail after a week. That same night he left again. A few days later he was arrested again for driving on a suspended license. He was incarcerated for 2 months and released in October. Everything was great after that. He started a new job, it paid well, no drugs and he even helped me with the kids. 

January rolls around and my worst nightmare became a reality. He's stealing money again and this morning my 4 year old asked me where our tv was. He traded it for crack last night. I had to quit my job because I had nobody to watch my 3 kids while I work. We are still living with his mom and she is very supportive of me. I don't know what to do. We tried kicking him out and the police were a**holes and told us we couldn't do that?

I know I need to leave. I don't know where to go. His mom is all I have but if we can't kick him out what do I do? I love him, I really do. But my kids are more important. Any advice? 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted: 01/22/2015 11:55 AM

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My New Life (Update)
My New Life (Update) Several months ago I finally made a hard stand against what was happening in my life with AD. I changed my phone number and blocked all communication. He spent his birthday & Christmas without his family & that was really hard but the other kids are struggling with everything that has happened..one of my twins is in counseling mostly because of it. It was very quiet for a few weeks and then we heard from him about 3 weeks ago. He has a job! And an apartment! He is working for an investment group who own 3 restaurants and AD waits tables and is assistant manager for one of the restaurants. He has been attending regular AA meetings as he has been seen there by my other son's friend. He is volunteering at the local humane society shelter a couple of times a month. He is also starting his own business, a college writing service that I help him with (He is an excellent writer). He says he needs to keep busy...he also started a payment plan with the court to pay off all court fines. I have been able to verify the job & apartment & we are working on the writing projects together via email. The best part is that he has not asked us for a cent. He seems proud of what he has accomplished pointing out that 3 months ago he was just out of jail and homeless. He is talking so much better too- Acknowledging that he is a 28 year old man and he needs to start & handle his own life. He has plans to try & go back to school to finish his degree once the court fees are done. He said he is just seeking an equilibrium now ..he seems so much more realistic. So things are better. We have allowed him to come over once..he spent the night & we dropped him off to work the next morning. No fights..no drama. I told him we can do this sometimes on his day off as we really enjoy his company when he in active recovery. I am being cautious..I have not given him my new phone number..We are in contact through Facebook which I can block quickly. Now the test is if he can sustain this..so far, so good...but he has shown what he could be and that he can do it if he wants to. It's been a good beginning to the year..I pray we end it the same way..

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