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AskanAddict.com is intended to provide addiction support and advice in a non-judgmental way so that the addict or anyone else that's been affected by an addict will know there are many who understand and eliminate the feeling of being alone. Ask an Addict knows it may be hard to talk with family and friends as many times they just don’t understand. Many have fractured those important relationships in life during active addiction. When it comes to seeking information, likeness, and establishing a strong recovery program who better to ask then someone who has been there! At Ask an Addict we listen and learn, together. Whether your an addict, a recovering addict or have been affected by an addict, we all have that common denominator of addiction.

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Dead, Arrested or using again

 I just want to vent I think.  I haven't heard from him in 24 hours.  He's probably using, but I don't want to get mad, what if he's dead?  Then I'm mad at a dead person.  What if he's arrested?  I could call the one person in his life that would probably know, but I don't want to. She's already washed her hands of him years ago.  I don't want to drag her into it.  I hate this.  I can't eat.  I did sleep the morning away..it's one of my coping mechanisms when it first starts.  When he first goes missing I can sleep and I do.  I know it's avoidance.  But then as the time rolls on, I can't sleep.  All I can do is worry.  I'm trying so hard to just pray this time.  I know that worrying gets me no where and praying gives me some peace.  What did/do you guys do when you don't know if they are dead or alive?

Posted: 05/27/2015 8:04 PM

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Another way to think about it
I have learned a lot in the last year, one thing that surprised me is about the disease of addiction. The drug use is not the disease, it is a symptom of the disease. It is a disease about feelings. Just by pausing the drugs doesn't cure the disease. This is why it is important and essential that just stopping needs to be accomanied by something that includes working on the deeper issues. Counseling, 12 steps etc. When my husband would pause his drinking, even then I knew it was just a matter of time before he would drink again. When I see my daughter still after 4 years, going to meetings, talking to her sponsor and sponsoring as well as advocating I don't have that same doomed feeling. They are using the drugs to suppress the feelings and getting physically addicted may just be the horrible consequence. Could it be that is why the people that just paused their addiction in my life were still kind of jerks? Because they didn't have the tools and support to handle real life, that is why it didn't last.

Posted: 05/28/2015 3:39 AM

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