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Hi my 21 year old son has been on methadone for 5 months now at 115 m and was staying clean

he tried droping the dose down to 95m to lower the side effects (sweating and ED) and he immidiatly relapsed ....

it was a short 2 dayer but it feels like we are back to square one.

On guard hiding everything, I took his car away too as I pay the insurance and he still owes me for some of it.

I dont want him to kill someone or himself if he crashes

This has been going on now over 4 years and he has tried suboxone, 5 rehabs 6 IOPs countless AA meetings and now Methadone is there any hope for him

 

 

I found drug paraphenalia in my son's room.  There were two needles, some spoons that were discolored on the bottom from being held over a flame, two pieces of a plastic drinking straw about 3 inches long, and several very tiny, empty plastic bags (less than an inch square) printed with clubs like the clubs on playing cards.  From this information, can you give me an idea what he is using?

I KNOW that my AD is active again.. I am sad. the good part is I can DO NOTHING. I can only focus on ME and my little one! I pray, A LOT. I have NO control over HER. I found a peace, yet still have fears of the "phone call" I will spare details of the crazy things I have heard, but I know this, I am OKAY today, and will be. Thank You to the members here that have supportd me through the YEARS. I have painted my house, had a fantasticly fun summer with my Lil one, made NEW friends, took a vacation to see my family (YES I LEFT HERE), and reject pleas for money and hang the phone up too! and accomplished many neglected things, including ME. I am PROUD of myself to say the least!

 

Hi,I've been smoking crack since 2000 why can't I stop now I hate crack I hate the ultimate feeling and I still smoke every time I get paid I call my dealer and buy n smoke people I know all smoke crack and they love it and they love the lifestyle they live.Help me I'm doomed...

 My husband has been clean from prescription drugs for 19 years, my worries started a year ago with the ocational use of NyQuil and Unisom tablets to sleep; last week while on vacation I found seven (7), 12 oz bottles of ZZZQuil in the closet (under his clothes), as each morning passed I rechecked the closet, one bottle disappeared each night along with two of the Unisom pills. He struggled with staying awake around 3pm every day and said he was just tired. I'm sure the 10% alcohol and Diphenhydramine in both the ZZZQuil and Unisom has something to do with it.

I approached my husband with maybe getting a sleep study done and stop self medication. He imediately was defensive telling me I didn't know what I was talking about because his drug of choice was Hydrocodone not alcohol. He also pointed out on the ZZZQuil label it says Non-Habit Forming; My gut feels like he has relapsed but I don't want to approach him with this if I am wrong. Can a person in recovery from pain pills relapse on ZZZQuil and Unisom?

Thank you,

Sheila

My daughter is in jail, she said she relapsed and also made up a lie to police about why they drove a man away from a store after he had stole some stuff.  She and her bf didnt go in store.  Long story, judge lowered bail to $5000, and i still will not bail her out, she goes to court again Aug. 1.  She is crying, etc.  She has already lost custody of her kids, lost their home and found no job, since being with this bf last 7 yrs.  Its hard to keep her there, but I feel thats where she will realize not to keep on this path.  Looking for anyone who may have dealt with this.  Thanks

i am wondering, my boyfriend has been off and on k2 for four full years. he says that he can quit whenever he wants to. but thats a typical statment of an addict one day him and his friend decided to quit together the smashed theyre pipe. we all cried because it was one of the happiest days of my life (besides having my daughter) i had thought this was the start of our life. but a couple days ago, he had told me he never quit he had been smoking. and it absoultly broke my heart in pieces. ive realized hes been lying to myself and his family about where he is, whos hes hangin out with. i know i sound like a nag at times or bossy when i ask him millions of questions, its just that he can get hurt, we have a daughter together he will go to jail and get taken away from her. he hasnt been around her in a month and half, which i think may be best for right now. i love him so much, leaving him will only make matters worse sometimes i feel like it would help him. then again hes dofferent it would get worse, he would probally OD. its come out of his mouth that he "quit" for me and my daughter but he never did i feel like im being cheated on by this drug, he told me words from his mouth that theres nothing i can do to stop him. it hurts . makes me feel like myself or our daughter are much of a motivation for him. makes me wonder why im not enough to make him happy. please help. i need advice. you can email me @ jaimee.creighton@gmail.com

Successful businessman but suboxone addict. He 100% will always justify his addiction.  I did work at business but have since been kicked out as he can no longer stand me there reminding him daily about his addiction. I don't actively say anything to him but just looking at me reminds him of who he really is. Me just being near him reminds him that he is an addict.  My codependcy was perfect for working at HIS business .  Somehow though when I get infuriated by his addiction (of which I'm not allowed to even mention to him anymore ) I get mad I get ANGRY.  Then it is my anger that is the problem.  I am the problem everything about me is the problem.  Yet I am not the addict.  How is it he justifies his addiction but can understand or allow my anger in our marriage?  I am considered out of control and he is perfect.  I hide his addiction well I am the perfect enabler.  I have made him very successful in his business and created the perfect environment for his addiction to survive.  He is dismissive, condescending, he blames me for everything.  It's HIS business HIS money HIS everything.  So what am I besides the fool? Why do I feel the need to justify by anger and compare it to his addiction somehow trying to make myself feel better in the process?  Hope I didn't confuse anyone, this is my husband I am talking about.

why are addicts selfish and prideful? My husband is an addict to meth and porn. I had no idea while we were dating but soon after we married began to notice some things, behaviors I didn't like. When I confronted him about it he says its no big deal, he can quit it at anytime. He says hes a big boy he knows what hes doing. After he participates using with his friends when we comes home his attitude and behavior is different. At first he tries to act normal until I realize what he's been doing and say something about it he becomes argumentative, yells, slanderous, f this and f that and f you. obviously there isn't any communication between us ever. When hes on it hes up for days, doing whatever he wants to do. Not thinking about anyone else but his self. Sometimes when I confront him about a situation he gets aggressive. Sometimes when I simply disagree with him about anything he gets angry and yells. He says things to me such as woman u submit, or woman im the leader of this house, or God speaks to me and tells me how to b the leader of this home and if you don't submit to me then you aren't obeying God. But that's not true because he is using his leadership position in a lording over his wife way. Instead of walking in the truth of Gods word and love and kindness. He likes to blame me for his behaivor, he says if u would start respecting me i will start loving you. Therefore since we have no communication. Because of his choices to use and participate with his friends I have a hard time trusting him, his word, his leadership, etc. Were going on 4 years now and I have finally decided to give ultimatum and he flipped out and demanded he will not divorce me or sign the papers, but is willing to go to counseling. We went one time to celebrate recovery haven't been since. And no change has occurred just empty promises. When its time to do the hard work to get clean and stay clean theres always a reason why nows not a good time to. Unfortunately what kept me still in the marriage was because I still loved him even though his behavior showed me his lack of love towards me. But seriously change desperately needs to occur or I'm calling it quits finally. Because I'm tired of dealing with it.

I haven't posted in a long time. My son is still using and I am still anxious and depressed; my husband has started to show the same problems. with anxiety and depression.  He is in counseling and we went to a 12-week class on addiction; he hoped to learn the magic words to make my son grow up.

We wake up before 6:00 a.m., even though we are retired, because we are anxious.

My son is working and recently got a raise.  Now he can earn the amount of money he pays for rent in 2 1/2 days, but is still reluctant to do so.   I seldom speak to him; I have had more intimate conversations with people whose names I did not know.  We are polite.  He goes to movies I don't like with his father.  He has no friends.

Our family is shrinking: my mother is dead, her partner is dead, my brothers-in-law are dead, my father-in-law is dead, and his widow has Alzheimer's and is in a wheelchair after a stroke.  She cannot remember what she said five minutes earlier, but she consistently remembers how much she has detested her stepchildren for 35 years.  She has a conservator because of the predatory conduct of her attorney -- she always preferred those who flattered her and she lacked insight into the motives of others.  My two sisters-in-law are widows.  One of them is going into the boutique marijuana growing business, dementia, drugs and drink being the identifying characteristic of my husband's family and my own.

So far as I can tell, my daughter continues free of much of the sorrows of the past.  She is a good friend, wife, and mother; she loves her work.  I trust her judgment more than I trust my own quite often.

The older I get, the more I respect my grandparents, who tried to rescue and protect all of their children and grandchildren.  I hope that I can be as strong as them. 

I recently read some stuff on the internet about resilience.  I am hoping that I can learn how to have more of it.  I wish everyone reading this many more healthy helpings of resilience.  And hope.  I would like some of that please.