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I feel so foolish, I became friends recently with a young young man who had a drug problem that I was totally unaware of. By the time all was said and done, he stole approximately 200 pills or more in a 5 week period and a number of rings which can never be replaced. 

He ended up getting caught last week out of sheer stupidity (asked to buy when I started hiding them).  He would never have copped to it until I had him backed into a corner so tight that he knew that he would be arrested    

My dilemma is arrest to bring about  court ordered treatment or let his family handle this?  He's 41 yrs old, lost his father & sister to addiction within the past 2 years.  I don't think they will do anymore than put him in outpatient program and based on what he has stolen, he was probably taking 90 mg or more per day of oxys.  He has 3 children  

I don't want this family destroyed but if I don't go with court ordered, he is pretty smooth and with my limited knowledge, without court ordered I know he will relapse  

We connected due to a group to help the homeless in my town, which I recently started in memory of my son who I lost to a period of homelessness and addiction.  If it were my own son, I would have done the tough love  route.  

This man was willing to sit here and not only watch me suffer in pain because I ran out of meds that I needed, but after he was caught I had his wife asking, "what are you doing with pain meds anyway?", but he watched as I almost ruined a relationship with my landlord of 4 years and who has also been a friend for 10 yrs  because the landlord has a key; he knew every time I entered alone, I was scared to death  

What is the right thing to do for him to get help and for me to feel right about all this?  The betrayal is the worst 

This is breaking my heart!  

Posted: 02/08/2016 4:42 PM

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