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I KNOW that my AD is active again.. I am sad. the good part is I can DO NOTHING. I can only focus on ME and my little one! I pray, A LOT. I have NO control over HER. I found a peace, yet still have fears of the "phone call" I will spare details of the crazy things I have heard, but I know this, I am OKAY today, and will be. Thank You to the members here that have supportd me through the YEARS. I have painted my house, had a fantasticly fun summer with my Lil one, made NEW friends, took a vacation to see my family (YES I LEFT HERE), and reject pleas for money and hang the phone up too! and accomplished many neglected things, including ME. I am PROUD of myself to say the least!

Posted: 09/24/2016 8:28 PM

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Keep up the good work.  I am in the same place.

Posted: 09/24/2016 9:07 PM

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Good luck, Wannarun.  I have always loved your AanA name.  I am much as ever, so I am very proud of you for stepping and up and doing what even I know must be done. I know there is no promise that what you're doing will "work" for her, but you are taking the only open path esp. in light of your younger child.  Good luck to her, too.

Posted: 10/09/2016 8:04 PM

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Hi! Yes I'm still here too. Still in the same place with AD...but have moved on with the rest of my life. He's still playing the same games, same manipulations, same dysfunctions. I no longer refer to his relapses but my own as I can be going along just fine & have a day where I still obsess over that of which I have no control. My other 3 are growing into fabulous adults and they are a United front when it comes to all of this. 

I could tell stories but there isn't a point to that. He did recently go on a tirade when he found out his brother was working in the same city as him and so AD had to quit his "two jobs" because of this infiltration from his horrible family.Even the other addicts on his Facebook told him he was a whiny attention-seeker who needed to cut the crap. He takes them for what he can as well. 

About a month ago I did go and meet with him and it was an unmitigated disaster that ended in me driving him to hospital psych and calling security to meet me at the door. That was my relapse..it accomplished nothing but the payoff that he can still get mom to run out there even if it will do no good. He had written a suicide note to my 86 year old father in law who just suddenly lost a son and he had just lost his step grandson to addiction & suicide. So my AD, true to form, swoops in to cash in. He told grandpa to pay up or he would be responsible for his death, a note I used to get on a daily basis. This angered me & shook me up. AD is a masterful escalator..

But, I persevere...numb in some ways but ok. I am working on my own health trying some new strategies - determined to get stronger in every way possible. I find a great help to me is Valerie Silviera, founder of Addicts Family. Look into her work & sign up for her battle reminders. She just lost her addict daughter at the end of August, but she has been writing about it at least 10 years.

Stay Gold!

Posted: 10/13/2016 9:08 AM

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So good to hear from both of you.  I am wishing you the strength to live well even when things aren't going your way in critical areas.

Posted: 10/15/2016 1:31 AM

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So good to hear from both of you.  I am wishing you the strength to live well even when things aren't going your way in critical areas.

Posted: 10/15/2016 1:31 AM

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