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Our 25 yr old daughter came back home a year ago after a few years in different treatment programs.  She has Been clean for 2  years.  She tried some meetings when she first came home and said they've weren't for her.  We suspect that she has started hanging out with her old friends while they are smoking weed. She says she does not smoke it.  I am concerned. Should she be going to meetings ? And how often?  Thank you for your help. 

Posted: 10/26/2016 1:12 PM

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Many people in recovery do go to meetings frequently.  Some go nightly, some go weekly, some less than that. However, the key is that the person in recovery works a program of recovery, and is totally committed to that recovery.  Total commitment to  Recovery is lonely and difficult, and critical to staying clean. One component to a good recovery program is associating with other  people in recovery, and relying on them for support to maintain sobriety.

My concern is not how many meetings your daughter goes to, but that she is hanging with folks who are not in recovery.

That said, your daughter is in charge of her recovery, not you.  You are in charge of you.  If she is violating rules of your household, then you are responsible for maintaining your boundaries, and enforcing your rules.

Posted: 10/28/2016 10:54 PM

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she should be at mettings several times a week, whenever she is struggling she should be at one, she should have a sponsor that she speaks with.be very cautious when an addict makes excuses to why they do not "like "or "need" a meeting, that is a red flag. try getting yourself into a support group for you also.

Posted: 11/06/2016 6:41 PM

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Dear Newbie,

Your daughter has one task:  to stay clean.  How or if she does it, is her task.  For family members of addicts, there is Al-Anon.  There are also private councelors and groups.

If you are concerned and worried, please go to a meeting or see a councelor.  Best wishes,

Freyja

Posted: 12/22/2016 5:02 PM

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