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how to tell if my boyfriend may be doing meth

I'm so naive about this stuff...I've been trying to do some research.  I've been dating a wonderful man for about 10 months.  We are very serious and we spend most of our time together.  I recently found out he used to do meth.  We had a long conversation about it..he claims he was never addicted...says he used it on and off for about 3 years.  I'm very naive about drugs and was very scared and tempted to end the relationship.  I have children and I honestly can't take the risk and dont need the drama.  I dont mean to sound cold or judgmental... I dont judge.  It's just not something I've ever been involved in nor am I willing to.  I love him very much and I think I could just be paranoid since I found out.  So here is my question:  I apologize for the personal nature of some content.  He has a face issue.  it's not exactly acne.  Some days it's completely clear.  Some days it's very red and a few spots that he picks at. I've never noticed any picking at anywhere else on his body.  the face actually looks similar to roceasa.   He's been somewhat moody lately but not bad..... he is having a little trouble sleeping but mostly tossing and turning and he is eating just fine (a lot in fact).  My concern is the face issue plus last week he was fine then he went into the restroom (for a normal amount of time...maybe 2 or 3 minutes tops) then came out and we had sex 3 times.  He kept waking up and wanting to do it again.  He was drinking a lot that night..we went to a party so again, I could be being paranoid.  It's just very unusual for us to keep doing it like that.  After the 3rd time we went to sleep.  I just need some help with symptoms here and what to look for and what is no big deal.  Can you actually take it occasionally............. or is it so addictive that if he is actually doing it that it will continue to increase and get worse?  I'm at a loss.  Please excuse my ignorance on the topic!    

Posted: 08/02/2010 2:38 PM

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don't worry I am just as ignorant here.  I am still trying to find out about boundaries and consequences.  I guess some would say that I am addicted to my husband/addict but I know that I can not make him stop.  I have told him that I can not make him stop.  But we have been together for about 15 years and have 3 children.  I am really trying not to fight with him but he knows when I am upset and he still tries to lie to me.  He usually stays in the bathroom for hours he does pick his face to the point that he got a staph infection on his face about 3 years ago ( just admitted the drugs were the cause 2 months ago) and won't go to sleep until like 6 in the morning his is another drug.  I would get educated.  We are not really talking right now because he did not like my answer last night.

Posted: 08/02/2010 2:47 PM

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 if he gets really horny more likely he is doing meth

Posted: 08/04/2010 1:24 AM

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Well, sweetie, sounds like he is doing meth. I hate to tell you, as you are in love with him, and this will most definitely hinder that. From what you have written, those are all symptoms to me. The "roseacea" or blotchiness? Meth users pick and pick, like eyebrows, or pimples, sometimes ones that aren't even there. When I abused meth, I picked and picked at my face, and eyebrows. Plus my cheeks and ears would be beet red. And alot of sex? DEFINITE GIVEAWAY!!! Meth gives off some chemical in the brain that hightens sexual pleasure. I just saw a show on it, AND I know from personal experience. The bfs I had at the time were constantly horny and trying to get all freakish. And as for the eating alot- if he was coming down from his high, he probably hadn't eaten in awhile, therefore was hungry & ate alot. And the trouble sleeping? Most heavy meth users stay up for days even weeks, then fall deep asleep for days. If he is just using casually, then it wasn't enough to give him the energy to stay up active all night, so maybe he was trying to sleep but couldn't. Meth is hard to kick. If he really is a "casual user" like he claimed he USED to be- he should quit altogether before it becomes a serious problem. And that night you mentioned? Maybe he drank alot to come down easier from the meth. But I can't be sure. If you have any more questions, feel free to email me. I know alot about meth. I was a user, a "cook assistant", and a dealer. So I do know a little about the toxic shit. Good luck to you!

Posted: 08/05/2010 4:58 PM

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Do you want to be suspicious of  someone that you share your life with?  Especially if there are kids still at home,., My advice GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted: 08/05/2010 7:59 PM

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Hey Newbie, it sounds like he's definitely doing meth again. As far as being hooked or not, that one's kind of up in the air. ALMOST all of the meth users I know are, or were hooked on meth. The vast majority of people who use it do get hooked. The only reason I say it's still up in the air is that I myself have used meth quite a few times and yet never got hooked. It was one of several drugs I could take or leave, and not worry about. I don't know why this is, but it's possible it's because my drugs of choice were alcohol, pain pills, and mushrooms. I do have to say that the last few times I did use meth, I started to feel a certain draw to it, but I was still able to lay it down with no trouble. Bottom line though, NO drugs are okay to use. If he is using, hooked or not, he needs to stop. If there are children involved then the situation is even more urgent. You definitely need to set some boundaries, {no drug use period!}, and then make sure he respects your wishes. Next time you suspect him of using, go to the drug store and buy an at home drug test and ask him to take it. If he refuses, you may want to reconsider your relationship. I hope this helps.

Posted: 08/24/2010 6:23 PM

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