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Member Since: 06/26/2010
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Update (June, 2011):  I thought I'd better update my profile......it's nice to be back here at Ask An Addict and to see that many who were here last year when I was blessed to find you are still here and doing well, and also to see that others that I've gotten to "know" via other sites have found their way to this site as well :)  Since I thought that the PRIMARY problem that rocked my world was my husband's addiction to meth and oxycontin (but meth was the shocker and what I thought caused the worst experience of my life), I've been spending a lot of time on another site that is dedicated to meth.  I've learned, however, that it's not only all about meth, it's also not all about "him".  I was a very (albeit unwittingly) good codependent.........so good I didn't even realize I was codependent! :)  So now I'm working much harder on MY recovery......and I'm hoping to reconnect with those of you here that welcomed me with open arms and for which I am forever grateful. While I'm not yet divorced from him, we do remain separated.......he remains in out-patient court ordered treatment and states that he has been clean for a little over a year now.  The company is gone, my son and I just finished moving from our home (lost in foreclosure) to a rental home.  I got a new job in November (and am adjusting to being an employee vs. "the owner").......and I apparently am surviving.  Now I'm hoping to learn to LIVE again and to find a way to really reconcile all that's happened.  Matt......you've done a LOT with the site and it looks great and I see it has grown!  Nice work!  MissyMae, Venus and Isolated Dreamz......nice to "see" you.........and Jen and Jokersgirl "Hi"!!!

June 2010: Just learned recently that my husband of 10 years, a 55 year old retired policeman, has been doing Meth.  He had been doing is daily for at least a month, had lost 40 lbs in that time, had not slept or eaten, and went into a complete psychotic breakdown.  He had been taking massive amounts of oxycontin for 6+ years (originally given them because of chronic pain but then continued to use and increase his dosage), which was bad enough, but the meth took him to an entirely different and scary place.  He was kept in the hospital by the county for a couple of weeks, but was then released on a stay of commitment for 6 months and told to get psychiatric help.  A condition to his visitation of our 8 year old son was that he get out patient chemical dependency treatment, which he is at present, and I have an OFP against him so that he cannot return to our home at this time.  

I am a 51 year old mother of 4, ranging in age from 8 to 32.  Until recently I owned a company that had been in existence for 30 years, and he was working with me until this all came to light.  I'm dealing with his addictions, his horrible anger and irrationality, the collapse of the company, near bankruptcy and the possible foreclosure on our residence.  

I am seeing a psychiatrist of my own, and am also attending Al Anon meetings to try to get through this in one piece.  

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Sober Since: 05/16/2010. Sober for 13 years 9 months 11 days

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Happy New Year to a wonderful friend!

Posted: 12/31/2010 6:20 AM
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Hi Val,

Haven't had a chance to talk to you recently and hope you are doing well.


Posted: 09/06/2010 1:22 AM
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Hi Val,

I just wanted to take a minute to let you know that i'm fine. Hope you are doing well.


Posted: 08/27/2010 7:34 PM
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Welcome to the Family Valerie! I'm glad you found us. It seems like you've been through alot lately. I know you will get great support here. Hang in there, you WILL get through all this mess!

Posted: 06/28/2010 7:53 AM

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