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I have left a 6 year relationship with an alcholic/addict. Six very long years i have to say..that only brought me alot of hurt and pain. So much disappointment..more than anyone should have to go thru. I finally had to love him enough to let him go!!  He cant live without alchol and weed..although he tried to a few times!!!  I felt in the end..i really wasnt helping like i thought i was. It was more trying to contol what he does!!! That was just too much for him...and me as well!! I loved him..and hated him for the terrible things said and done while intoxicated!!   I didnt like the person i was becomming. I was so filled with hurt..and it started to show. Anger..sadness....all because of broken promises made. And i was so caught up in helping him..i forgot about taking care of me!!!  Guess it came down to realizing he is who he is!!! He has choices....just like i do!! I left a total of 5 times in those six years just to show him i had boundries. And physical abuse was a part of of what i experienced...and extreme verbal abuse at times. And to top it all of..a very hard core addiction to pornography. So.. i know what its like to love an addict!!!  I know what its like to hav their addiction affect you in the worst possible ways..mentally..physically..emotionally!! And i know the pain of leaving them...and then saying.Oh no..what have i done!!! Maybe i should have tried harder..why did i give up?? Even though i had left because i was in pain...i went back for more. Can u get addicted to the addict??? Dam straight you can!!! But the day finally came..one simple thing even..that made me say to myself..enough is enough!!! I will not..can not..live this way anymore!! I guess thats pretty much enough said for now. It came down to loving him enough to let go. And loving myself enough to not let it all destroy me in the process!! Wasnt easy..still at times it hurts like hell!! But i have sooooo much more peace in my life now! And i was worth it!!! My daughter needs me..and she needs a safe enviroment to live in..not one filed with addiction and fighting..and blame. So nice to have found this web sites!!