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My husband just relapsed on booze and drugs after 8 yrs of sobriety.   I never knew he used hookers and escorts before when he used.  Apparently he didn't get honest the first time...hence the dry drunk behavior the first go around and the evevitable relapse.   This time I around I found emails soliciting escorts, found evidence of a prepaid phone and he has admited to only getting a "hand job" since we have been married during this relapse though I know that's bs.  He admitted to many escort escapades when he used before prior to us being married.  He denies he is a sex addict.  Says it's just part of him being a drug addict. I disagree.  Help?????  I have already seperated from him and am ovb considering divorce.  He is in rehab. 

Posted: 10/30/2016 5:24 AM

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He is not completly wrong.  It is the disease of addiction, not the disease of addiction to ...(fill in the blank).  Many people who have adiction to substances, also have other types of addictions: eating disorders, gambling, sex etc.  Not all, but many do. If he is in rehab, then he has to come clean on the sex issues too, so that can be addressed.

The thing for you to do is to focus on yourself and your needs.  You cant fix him, only he can do that.

Posted: 11/01/2016 7:09 PM

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