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I haven't posted in a long time. My son is still using and I am still anxious and depressed; my husband has started to show the same problems. with anxiety and depression.  He is in counseling and we went to a 12-week class on addiction; he hoped to learn the magic words to make my son grow up.

We wake up before 6:00 a.m., even though we are retired, because we are anxious.

My son is working and recently got a raise.  Now he can earn the amount of money he pays for rent in 2 1/2 days, but is still reluctant to do so.   I seldom speak to him; I have had more intimate conversations with people whose names I did not know.  We are polite.  He goes to movies I don't like with his father.  He has no friends.

Our family is shrinking: my mother is dead, her partner is dead, my brothers-in-law are dead, my father-in-law is dead, and his widow has Alzheimer's and is in a wheelchair after a stroke.  She cannot remember what she said five minutes earlier, but she consistently remembers how much she has detested her stepchildren for 35 years.  She has a conservator because of the predatory conduct of her attorney -- she always preferred those who flattered her and she lacked insight into the motives of others.  My two sisters-in-law are widows.  One of them is going into the boutique marijuana growing business, dementia, drugs and drink being the identifying characteristic of my husband's family and my own.

So far as I can tell, my daughter continues free of much of the sorrows of the past.  She is a good friend, wife, and mother; she loves her work.  I trust her judgment more than I trust my own quite often.

The older I get, the more I respect my grandparents, who tried to rescue and protect all of their children and grandchildren.  I hope that I can be as strong as them. 

I recently read some stuff on the internet about resilience.  I am hoping that I can learn how to have more of it.  I wish everyone reading this many more healthy helpings of resilience.  And hope.  I would like some of that please. 

Posted: 06/02/2016 12:21 AM

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ny AD is continuing to use. She had seven months sobriety from rehab and a six month residential program. It was so lovely to have her back. No long after discharge, she returned to occasional use, which quickly spiraled. My husband and I face the unfortunate task of telling her to leave. She will be on the street again. Sigh

Posted: 06/26/2016 3:24 AM

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