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Hello all! I need advice! I have been so lost so much so I had  the brutal truth that i never realized, i have been dealing with my AD for seven years! She is fine as far as I know, but I  trying to find ME! I have been so lost in trying to keep my family together that i ladt me so much I do not know how to begin to find me! I have a small child so a lot of time is with her, and I do not have much extra. I am not happy with my job, but i  limited on available jobs iny area! I used to haveamy hobbies bit they no longer interest me. I jist do not know how to find me again! I am so ready to put me back together and find things I like but it feels overwhelming and i just do not know where to begin! Things i loved no longer grab me! Any advice is more than welcomed! I am  happy that i arrived to this point but chamge and chamging me is scary! I am 46 and it seems hard to reinvent myself! Thank you!

Posted: 03/03/2016 8:59 PM

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I can only second Anna's advice. Withdrawing and finding no pleasure in things you used to like or not seeking to engage in new activities or interests is a classic symptom of depression. You need to speak to a professional about this. Depression will affect so much in your life and also your general health. Stress kills. 

I have been dealing with all this for over 8 years now as well. But look! We're still here! The way I look at it, he is going to continue his path whether I'm happy or sad so why not try to be happy & at peace. My misery is changing nothing. I understand, I've gone through dark times where I withdraw from everything. I find daily meditation (I read Osho) has helped me find peace and helped me to "accept the things I cannot change. For some people, church or The Bible helps..some poetry or philosophy. Read something that helps you cope and spend 20 quiet minutes a day reflecting and meditating on that. Exercise..release endorphins. And follow Anna's advice, get to a meeting and speak to a professional. Hugs.

Posted: 03/06/2016 3:42 PM

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thank you  Never thought I was depressed always pictured that it was a crying ball of goo in a corner that could not cope. But everyday is a fight to get up, and NO pleasure in ANYTHING at all. I will speak with my doctor

Posted: 03/09/2016 11:20 AM

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