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my 27 year old son was arrested for felony dwi, I feel that I need to detach myself from him, I can't go thru this again!!!But not sure I'm doing the right thing. It's been a few days and I can't even bring myself to talk to him! Because everything out of his mouth is a lie. Please I will welcome any advise.

Posted: 03/22/2016 6:57 AM

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As a recovered addict in my 20's, I think you should not allow him in your home or pay his bail or his lawyers. Let him learn his lesson and maybe go to rehab, AA, NA. If my parents never changed the locks on me, then I would never attempt sobriety and living a more fulfilling lifestyle. Don't get me wrong. It took me 8 months of living away from them to even want to get my **** together but I eventually chose rehab instead of going back to jail and it helped. It may be tough for you to show tough love but it is for your child's best. 

Posted: 03/22/2016 1:22 PM

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You are on the right road.  you have no obligation to your son.  He is an adult. My daughter, 6 months sober, went down a similar road.  The only thing to do is to focus on your own sobriety, your own sanity.  You cannot change him.  He must seek his own sobriety.  You cannot do this for him.  Let go.  Let him experience his own life.  Let him learn his own lessons.

Posted: 03/24/2016 10:33 PM

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from experience the best thing my mother did was let go and detach from me. i was also that son who lied and did whatever i needed to get more. when my mother let go i had no one to rely on anymore and thats when i made the decison to get help. 5 years later here i am still clean and sober. now my mom and i have the best relationship than we ever had

Posted: 04/06/2016 7:07 PM

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