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i am wondering, my boyfriend has been off and on k2 for four full years. he says that he can quit whenever he wants to. but thats a typical statment of an addict one day him and his friend decided to quit together the smashed theyre pipe. we all cried because it was one of the happiest days of my life (besides having my daughter) i had thought this was the start of our life. but a couple days ago, he had told me he never quit he had been smoking. and it absoultly broke my heart in pieces. ive realized hes been lying to myself and his family about where he is, whos hes hangin out with. i know i sound like a nag at times or bossy when i ask him millions of questions, its just that he can get hurt, we have a daughter together he will go to jail and get taken away from her. he hasnt been around her in a month and half, which i think may be best for right now. i love him so much, leaving him will only make matters worse sometimes i feel like it would help him. then again hes dofferent it would get worse, he would probally OD. its come out of his mouth that he "quit" for me and my daughter but he never did i feel like im being cheated on by this drug, he told me words from his mouth that theres nothing i can do to stop him. it hurts . makes me feel like myself or our daughter are much of a motivation for him. makes me wonder why im not enough to make him happy. please help. i need advice. you can email me @ jaimee.creighton@gmail.com

Posted: 07/19/2016 1:28 PM

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You cannot make him happy.  You cannot control him.  You did not cause his addiction.  You cannot cure it either.  You can only control your own behavior and take care of your own life and your daughters life. Focus on those things, and do not focus on him.  He is responsible for himself.  In other words, cut your losses and move on.

Posted: 08/29/2016 12:52 AM

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There is nothing you can do to help him , he had to "get it", worry about yourself and your daughter, by doing nothing you are saying it's ok and showing her it's ok. The harm that living with an addict is causing you have control over. You can't love him out of it. My daughter is a heroin addict and I still see the pain surface from my other kids now, five years later, and they where teens. My daughter is 5 years clean and she had to lose everything and be homeless to get there. You never see 80 year old addicts. But you do see many people in long term recovery.

Posted: 09/01/2016 7:37 AM

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He was being honest when he said there is nothing you can do to stop him.  You have to ask yourself if this is the way you want to live and is this the example you want to set for your child?

Posted: 09/01/2016 8:24 AM

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