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My daughter is in jail, she said she relapsed and also made up a lie to police about why they drove a man away from a store after he had stole some stuff. She and her bf didnt go in store. Long story, judge lowered bail to $5000, and i still will not bail her out, she goes to court again Aug. 1. She is crying, etc. She has already lost custody of her kids, lost their home and found no job, since being with this bf last 7 yrs. Its hard to keep her there, but I feel thats where she will realize not to keep on this path. Looking for anyone who may have dealt with this. Thanks Posted: 07/20/2016 4:47 PM Received 3 Thanks for this Post |
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In Response to: Jail You are doing the right thing. No bail-out. My daughter was jailed briefly. We gave no bail $, no phone$, no $ for snacks etc. She did not change her behavior when she got out, but we did not spend a ton of $ on her incarceration. She has to feel the consequence of her behavior. She earned Jail. You did not. Posted: 08/22/2016 12:47 AM Received 0 Thanks for this Post |
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In Response to: Jail You are doing the right thing, if we keep helping them they feel no consequences . My daughter is a heroin addict and she had to be homeless and lose everything before she got clean and turned her life around. Posted: 09/01/2016 7:29 AM Received 1 Thanks for this Post |
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In Response to: Jail A recovering addict once told me that my son would not get better until he had suffered enough. As long as we keep putting a cushion under them to break their fall, they have no reason to change. Posted: 09/01/2016 8:21 AM Received 1 Thanks for this Post |
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In Response to: Jail hello! You are doing the right thing. I am a mom of an addict, I have seen my AD through the worst and prison. take care of YOU, and let go. I wonderful member told me that YEARS ago ( a shout out to Marti) but it took me a little too long to grasp it. I am finally there. no matter what my AD is doing I have finally found a way to take care of me and the other parts of our family. God Bless ans we are here for you. I have seen my AD in jail, prison, OMG the lies that came with it all. hang in, I have been where you are, minus ADF loosing children, as she has had none. it is all the same, details vary. No matter what it boils down to their using and our enabling or letting go. Letting go is HARD work, but nothing worth it in life comes easy. HANG IN THERE.
Posted: 09/24/2016 8:22 PM Received 0 Thanks for this Post |
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In Response to: Jail hello! You are doing the right thing. I am a mom of an addict, I have seen my AD through the worst and prison. take care of YOU, and let go. I wonderful member told me that YEARS ago ( a shout out to Marti) but it took me a little too long to grasp it. I am finally there. no matter what my AD is doing I have finally found a way to take care of me and the other parts of our family. God Bless ans we are here for you. I have seen my AD in jail, prison, OMG the lies that came with it all. hang in, I have been where you are, minus ADF loosing children, as she has had none. it is all the same, details vary. No matter what it boils down to their using and our enabling or letting go. Letting go is HARD work, but nothing worth it in life comes easy. HANG IN THERE.
Posted: 09/24/2016 8:22 PM Received 0 Thanks for this Post |
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In Response to: Jail hello! You are doing the right thing. I am a mom of an addict, I have seen my AD through the worst and prison. take care of YOU, and let go. I wonderful member told me that YEARS ago ( a shout out to Marti) but it took me a little too long to grasp it. I am finally there. no matter what my AD is doing I have finally found a way to take care of me and the other parts of our family. God Bless ans we are here for you. I have seen my AD in jail, prison, OMG the lies that came with it all. hang in, I have been where you are, minus ADF loosing children, as she has had none. it is all the same, details vary. No matter what it boils down to their using and our enabling or letting go. Letting go is HARD work, but nothing worth it in life comes easy. HANG IN THERE.
Posted: 09/24/2016 8:22 PM Received 0 Thanks for this Post |
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